Investing in Myself: Is Self Care a Lost Art?

Tuesday, May 19, 2020

The irony is not lost on me, writing this post about self care (including a note about reclaiming your sleep schedule) midweek at 12:30 in the morning. But that's perhaps why I feel the need to put this out into the universe: I need to invest in myself. Self care is such a buzzword lately, and I'm completely on board for it, but so much of what's touted as care is actually self-soothing and self-indulgence. There's a time and place for both of those things, of course, but they shouldn't be mistaken for actually taking proper care of yourself.

My New 101 in 1001 List

Monday, April 20, 2020

I know what you're thinking - another list? Didn't the last one just start? Not exactly. But the 1001 days aren't quite up yet, so I understand the confusion. The end date for the 3rd 101 goals in 1001 days list is the end of this year but I'm about done. With the whole list. And I love having goals to work on so I decided to move up the start date of this 4th list. It might seem strange to start a new goals list in the midst of all this uncertainty but I almost think that's why I want to start. There are so many things on my list I can start working on right now that will not only improve my life and home, but will also give me something to control in an otherwise uncontrollable situation. That deeply appeals to my enneagram type 1 self.

Favorite Things Lately

Monday, April 13, 2020

Since I switched up my blog content at the end of March, I haven't shared a Three on Thursday post. I went from sharing three favorite things every week to zero. I don't plan on going back to weekly favorites, but I feel like these favorite things posts will happen every once in awhile. If I find something I really enjoy, I want to share it. So here are the things I feel like mentioning:

Silk and Sonder Planner. I know, there isn't much to plan these days. But that may be why I like this planner even more, because it's a planner and journal in one. Technically, it's a planner subscription. You can order each month or order for the whole year and they will send you a new month long planner before the start of a new month. Inside has traditional weekly layout pages, and each week also has a notes page and a weekly planner page for things like your meal plan and shopping list, as well as a habit tracker section. Besides just the weekly pages, each planner also has a coloring page, two recipes, a monthly habit tracker, a daily mood tracker and various journal pages related to that month's theme. If you want to see the inside pages, it's on my YouTube channel. I've enjoyed having something to play around with that makes me use my hands and makes me create something. I'm not great at tracking all the things all the days but I love that it's there when I need it.

Letting the Pages Turn. Because I Get To, I Don't Have To.

Wednesday, April 8, 2020

The emotional ups and downs of this time are crazy, aren't they? On the one hand, I've learned how much I freaking love staying away from people. Seriously, we should all be glad I love animals too much to be a serial killer, because according to all the true crime shows, I've got all the other hallmarks. I thought maybe I was doing okay because I still had John at home but now I'm all on my own at my parents' house (they're in Florida) while he's at the firehouse and nope, still doing fine. I text people (only 4 with any regularity), call my parents every couple of days, and did one facetime happy hour with two friends. And it's been more than enough human interaction for me. Don't judge.

On the other hand, there's still been things to grieve. We're not leaving for our Florida vacation tomorrow, as intended. A silly thing to grieve, but it's still there. Canceled some fun plans with friends in May because it's pretty unlikely that anything will be normal by then. Again, silly, but real. We also have traditions surrounding March Madness and Easter and draft day and the Derby that just aren't going to happen. And there's an underlying anxious feeling over John and my dad's health. John because he's in the line of fire and has what I like to call 'the immune system of a carnival goldfish.' And my dad because he's 80 and has other health issues. He's been good about staying inside but they want to come back here to Chicago at some point, so I worry about them traveling (next month or later).

The anxiousness isn't going to go away, not with so many unknowns still out there. I have ways to not dwell on that so much (but not ignore it either.) But the sadness over cancelled plans and traditions is something to emotionally work through, rather than just digging my heels in and insisting it'll be 'back to normal soon.' There will be good things and many more bad things to come out of this, but life will not be the same when this is over. It will not be 'back to normal soon.'

And I'm letting that page turn.

What is Homemaking?

Wednesday, April 1, 2020

I'm switching gears today off the topic of slow living and onto the other topic I feel like I suddenly have a lot to say about - homemaking.